urn:lj:livejournal.com:atom1:path2adoption The Long Journey path2adoption 2038-01-19T03:14:07Z urn:lj:livejournal.com:atom1:path2adoption:10974 2038-01-19T03:14:07Z 2038-01-19T03:14:07Z Below are some examples of questions/topics that are appropriate to discuss with a birth mother:<br /><br />1. How are you feeling?<br />2. What helped you to choose adoption?<br />3. Is there anything in particular that led you to choose our family? Did we have similar hobbies or interests?<br />4. What are your some of your hobbies/interests? Favorites?<br />5. Would you like to know more about what we like to do? Our family?<br />6. Is there anything we can do to help make this process more comfortable for you?<br />7. Is there anything else we can tell you about us to make you more comfortable?<br />8. Explain how you will tell the child about her and the adoption. Ask if there is anything she wants to share for you to tell the child.<br />9. Reassure her about future contact such as pictures and letters.<br />10. Tell her how much this means to you and tell her how honored you feel that she has chosen you to become parents. Thank her.<br />11. Tell her about your recent vacation, family outing, typical weekends etc.<br />12. If she has other children or family members who are a positive in her life, ask about them.<br />13. If the birth father is involved, it will be important to include him and ask him questions also.<br /><br /><br />Below are some examples of questions that are not appropriate to ask a birth mother:<br /><br />1. Have you been making it to all your doctor appointments?<br />2. Have you been checked for Sexually transmitted diseases (STD's)?<br />3. Do you have HIV or AIDS?<br />4. Do you do any drugs?<br />5. In-depth questions concerning medical disorders.<br />6. Detailed questions concerning the birth father.